However, the issue that I have with cheaters isn’t really the sex part of it. The mystery sloppy seconds does gross me out a little but the part that I can’t tolerate is the lying and sneaking around. I’ve found that most people that lie and cheat get addicted to it and even start doing it subconsciously. This is why I broke of contact with my ex’s and recommend that NBK seriously consider doing the same. I really did/do love them and I knew that there was a pretty good chance that they would be happier with someone other than me because since they were able to be dishonest with me, it showed me without a doubt, that while I loved them, they were just using me.
This is what NBK needs to figure out. Has his wife grown from her experience? Does she regret lying to him? Can she change, meaning can she be honest with him(nothing to do with dick variety)? Can he deal with her being with a sneaky liar if she can’t change? Gnarly questions to have to struggle with constantly.